Is Life Happening TO You or FOR You?

What if life is not happening TO you but instead it is happening FOR you?

Life happens. And the perspective you take can determine whether you feel powerless or empowered in your life.

With every experience you have you are being given the opportunity to face life head on or to avoid it. Whichever you choose determines the outcome and the following experiences you have.

If, however, you take the position that life is happening FOR you then you face life, using each experience to grow and heal.

Facing life can feel a little uncomfortable at first because it requires looking at yourself and where you are responsible and accountable. However, facing life is the path to living your life fully the way you really want to, living purposefully and with passion.

In the next few Blogs I will address more how avoidance happens and how facing yourself leads to feeling fulfilled.

When in victim mode and avoidance you cannot see your blind spots. When facing life head on having a reflection that you are on the right path for you is of value. Having a mentor, coach, guide or healer to be with you on the path can assist in speeding the process of moving to wholeness. My clients choose me to fill these roles when they need extra support. Do you need extra support in any of these areas? If so, I'd love to have a conversation with you. Please feel free to contact me via email at teresalea@intouchinlife.com or call me at 336-623-9138.

How are you seeing life happen to you or for you? Are you avoiding life or facing life? Please let me know by commenting below. I'd really like to hear.

You and Your Choices Matter. And You Have Value!  Viewing life as happening FOR you , instead of TO you, allows you to show up and be fully In Touch In Life.

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War or Kindness?

I was working with a client the other day and when she began sharing how much her life had changed as a result of our work together I found myself minimizing my part in it. It is my belief that I don't heal anyone. I DO, however, facilitate setting up all aspects of your BodyMindSpirit to be balanced in a way that healing can happen on all levels.

She kept insisting I take credit. As I thought about this later I had a realization. I was afraid that by taking credit that I would be disempowering her right and ability to heal herself. As I dug deeper, I then realized that by NOT allowing myself to be recognized and honored in that situation I was actually disempowering myself and dishonoring the gifts that I bring to facilitate deep healing and changes in the lives of the people I serve. Hmmmm…

Bear with me just a little bit more, please. My curiosity got me to explore further and what emerged was that there was a deeper belief that led me to realize I was afraid. Afraid that if I did take credit in any way that others would expect me to be responsible for their healing and wholeness. And if miracles did not happen for them then they would blame me.

I know this all sounds crazy. And, truthfully, it is crazy making. But I do have a point here. Any time that crazy making is happening in a way that manifests as fear, or judgment is the same as making war with yourself. Kindness towards yourself, instead is about owning your gifts and value and self respect. It's about being willing to be seen and heard and allowing others to be responsible for themselves by being responsible for yourself.

Do you spend the day being at war with yourself or being kind to yourself?

Please let me know by commenting below. I'd really like to hear.

Tags: empowering, fear, healing, self respect, self value
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